It’s Our Parents’ Fault Why Most Of Us Are Misinformed About The Transgender Community

It’s Our Parents’ Fault Why Most Of Us Are Misinformed About The Transgender Community

In today’s society, we are learning that the LGBT community isn’t so “voodoo” anymore. It’s finally getting to a point where people can come out freely and not feel like they will be punished, nor hated on, and it’s finally getting to a point where people can openly talk about this without feeling the need to whisper, so to speak. Something that I would like to bring attention to, though, is the “T” in the LGBT: Transgenders.

It seems as though, since Caitlyn Jenner came out wanting to be a woman, all of a sudden there is this huge display of hate happening. Why? Is it because she is in fact a celebrity, and people think this is a media stunt? Is it because she is so off the wall, that people just cannot even begin to understand her? Is it because people are still set in their ways, and think this is punishable by God? And, putting Caitlyn aside, if we are just speaking about the male or female down the street… we still think he or she is just making this up to gain attention? Do we still think he or she is crazy? Do we still think he or she is going to be punished by God?

Much of the human race is very much misinformed by such an occurrence. We all understand that most adults grew up in different times than the millennials. We understand that religion was once more influential than it may be now. So we understand if you were born into that culture and just have trouble understanding where transgenders fall these days, and why they are the way they are. But to blatantly hate a person just because they weren’t born into the ‘correct’ body? Isn’t that a little cruel? And, as we have found out, could it actually be the parent’s fault?! (keep reading….)

Some people, from the moment they are able to speak, are able to realize they are not the gender indicated by their birth certificate. Now, to some of you, this would mean they are gay, correct? If a boy likes to play with dolls, he must be gay, right? Wrong.

I have been discussing this specific topic with a very good friend of mine, who is honestly curious as to why transgenders are the way they are.

“I just don’t understand why people change their gender. You were born as a man or woman. What is wrong with that? Just because you feel like doing boy stuff as a girl or girl stuff as a boy doesn’t mean you have to change your anatomy does it?  Back when I was a kid, girls who wanted to do boy stuff were called tomboys, and that was just fine. I just don’t get why people feel the need to change who they are, or who they were born to be. Maybe society puts pressure on them to act differently?”

This is a very mature question, trying to understand the root of the issue at hand. I can very much appreciate people wanting to know more, and not screaming “YOU WILL BE PUNISHED BY GOD!” at the top of their lungs.

As my friend mentioned above, people are just very much misinformed. They just simply do not know! And sadly, the one’s who are screaming the hatred, are some of the most misinformed people out there.

Let me mention to you the words, “ambiguous genitalia”. You may have heard of this before, but what does it have to do with the transgender community? When we research these words, we find it stating the following:

“Ambiguous genitalia is a rare condition in which an infant’s external genitals do not appear to be clearly male or female”

“The goals of management are to ensure your child’s long-term emotional well-being, future sexual function and potential for fertility, and stable gender identity. The most popular treatment option is surgery to improve sexual function or for cosmetic reasons. Doctors may suggest surgery for some patients when they are infants. Years ago, doctors never discussed this with parents though, and would just do surgery at their own discretion.”

So what does this mean, exactly? If I can dumb it down for you all, and not get too scientific, it basically means if a baby is born, comes out with an enlarged clitoris, the baby then is considering having male parts. If a baby is born, comes out with a small penis and no testicles, the baby is then considering having female parts. Now a days, like stated above, doctors will suggest surgery to the parents, keeping in mind what is best for the child long term. But, way back in the day, doctors did not want this kind of confrontation, because it was so unheard of and “forbidden,” they would just take the baby and perform the surgery themselves, thus leaving a born “male” child, now as a female, and when that child grows up, she cannot understand why she has been feeling like a male all her life.

Some other instances of this:

Typically, ambiguous genitalia in genetic females has the following features:

  • An enlarged clitoris that looks like a small penis
  • The urethral opening (where urine comes out) can be anywhere along, above, or below the surface of the clitoris.
  • The labia may be fused and look like a scrotum.
  • The infant may be thought to be a male with undescended testicles.
  • Sometimes a lump of tissue is felt within the fused labia, further making it look like a scrotum with testicles.

In a genetic male, ambiguous genitalia usually include the following features:

  • A small penis (less than 2 to 3 centimeters, or 3/4 to 1 1/4 inches) that looks like an enlarged clitoris (the clitoris of a newborn female is normally somewhat enlarged at birth).
  • The urethral opening may be anywhere along, above, or below the penis. It can be located as low as the perineum, further making the infant appear to be female.
  • There may be a small scrotum that is separated and looks like labia.
  • Undescended testicles commonly occur with ambiguous genitalia,

So, now you understand a little behind the science of why someone is the way they are. Granted, this is not the ONLY reason transgendered humans feel the way they do, but as far as science goes, this is a great way to explain it. And to fight the topic, “God made you a woman, you need to live with that!”….well actually he made you a man, but your parents, and your doctor, decided to intervene and make you a woman, so really, that argument is not plausible any longer.

Megan Besler

Megan Besler

Born and raised in small town Iowa, living the dream in St. Louis, MO. Megan has not been short in accomplishments, singing for the St Louis Cardinals, Milwaukee Brewers, Kansas City Royals and Harlem Globetrotters, just to name a few. As well as being an animal activist raising over $7000 in one year for a local no kill animal organization. She is very passionate about music and the arts, as well as women's rights, equality, animals, the environment, and more. "My dream in life is to save the world. Whether that be making someone smile each and everyday, drawing kindness to our society, or raising money for a great cause and spreading awareness".